As I love myself


LOVE - Valentines Day.....those 3 words can evoke a lot of emotion.  Especially if we find ourselves approaching Valentines Day and maybe not being in the love relationship with another that we expected to be, wanted to be, and especially for those going through heartache - maybe because of a relationship that has just broken down or through bereavement.

However, before we look outside we must learn to fully know, accept and love ourselves.  Only then are we truly ready to fully love another.  So whatever situation you find yourself in, take some time for self-care, show appreciation, kindness, love, compassion towards yourself.......others will love us only to the extent that we love and accept ourselves.  We send out unconscious signals to the world about how to treat us.  If we think we are not important and place our needs at the back of the queue, others will do the same, if we lie to ourselves and accept it, others will lie to us, if we treat ourselves with tenderness and respect, so that is what we will receive back in from others.

My monthly workshop last Saturday was entitled:  "looking through the lens of love" as we wondered and pondered how the world, experiences and situations can look like a different place when we view it through the lens of love.

As I was preparing for the mini retreat, I stumbled across this amazing poem. I am not sure of the original source.  It maybe by Charlie Chaplin, or as seems more likely a translation from the beautiful work by Kim McMillen: When I loved myself enough.  I think it is beautiful - let me know what you think?

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!


Remember, we cannot fully love another until we fully love and accept ourselves, so whatever love or life situation we find ourselves in this February 14th, let's take some time inwards to truly know, accept and love ourselves, unconditionally :)