Who would you meet if you slowed down?

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I am wondering - who would you meet if you allowed yourself to slow down and stop and truly face yourself?

Would you like what you see?

Or a better question I wonder…is: Do you know her?

First of all….I am one of you!! I’m a busy one, often juggling a massive to do list, commitments, not leaving myself enough time to drive between meetings or classes, and always wishing for one more hour in each day.

I know I am not alone in having a delusional moment with myself of buying a gorgeous magazine as a treat with the image in my head of sitting down with a cup of tea and flicking through the inspirational magazine, with a candle burning nearby, some favourite music on and indulging in some me time.

I buy the magazine - and it stays unopened for at least 2 weeks.

There is always so much to do.

I know that anyone else that runs their own business will certainly agree with me - there is always one more social media post to do, one more email to respond to, and inspired idea that you want to research……but aside from that, is this a deeper problem where as women we may find it hard to carve out time for self care?

Do we inherently feel guilty for sitting and just being?

Do we find it hard to switch off from a set of self created “must do lists.”

Is it because it seems that being busy and even stressed is a goal that is glorified?

So back to my original question - if you were to stop and face yourself - would you like who you see?

Are you in alignment with your truth and are you making choices and living by values that are true to who you are?

As I’ve been driving recently, I have been revisiting some of Caroline Myss audio books ( I am a massive fan of both!!) and have been reflecting on what she says about the 4 archetypes of survival that we ALL have - the Victim, the Saboteur, the Prostitute and the Child.

If we consider the prostitute for a moment, forget what we automatically think about as a the woman who sells her body for sex, but (Caroline says) we all have a price that we will sell ourselves for. Interesting food for thought. As I cast my mind back to decisions I have personally made in the past, and what I observe in my gorgeous ladies on retreat and also with my coaching and therapy clients, I can see this is true.

If you're totally honest with yourself, is there somewhere where you’re selling a part of you? Where you’re trading part of your authenticity? Perhaps as a trade for being looked after, for financial comfort, for fitting in, for doing what’s expected, for keeping the peace, to stay in the successful career, for keeping the peace?

Sometimes we do this consciously, sometimes unconsciously but either way we are fragmenting our soul and allowing ourselves to be less than whole.

If we brought back all parts of us - who are we?

My belief is that right now, with planetary changes, and the shifts in energy we are all being called up step up and be more of who we truly are.

If we are resisting this, it maybe showing up in feelings of being unsettled, ungrounded, unfocussed, or it may show up in irritating disagreements with loved ones, with disappointment at work, with unexplained dissatisfaction with life (when on the outside it all appears to be fine).

Instead of getting busier or turning to blaming of others or yourself, instead of making changes on the outside, be kind to yourself, and create some “me-time” and go inside and be open to what is coming up for you. This maybe alien at first and if so, take some time just sitting with it.

Find what works for you.

Maybe doing a simple yoga flow practice will help, maybe chanting, journalling, maybe swimming or running….or maybe carving some time out of your busy schedule to join a retreat and focus inwards.

I know that I cannot ignore the stirrings of my soul - I know I have to be true to myself and I also recognise that there is always further to go.

I am reminded again of the line from the poem The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

Whereas some people may search for the perfect dress, I am searching for my truth (but it could be a close tie if a handbag is involved); I am fortunate I have a great tribe of close friends and we ask ourselves and challenge each other with questions that aren’t usually part of everyday life conversations. It is easier to see who you are, and be open to your hidden selves when another holds a mirror up to them. If you don’t have a tribe like this, I would suggest creating one! It is so valuable and I treasure these connections and friendships.

You may also fancy the deep dive and joining me on retreat where we can let go of all of the usual obligations, no work commitments, not childcare issues, no need to think about food or cooking, just showing up for yoga and showing up as you in a supportive group of like minded yoginis.

If this appeals to you and you would like to join me on retreat reach out for details of my special retreat to Ibiza in November.

If you reach out to me before the end of 28th Sept to book your place, you receive a free 60 mins coaching session with me worth £197.


Please note - due to many requests from younger goddesses, this is now open to ALL women who are ready to explore wearing the crown and being the Queen, the sovereign over their life.